I became concern about this topic after handling a lesson with my Adolescent class in church on emotions and feelings
Here is what you need to know about emotions and feelings before we start;
Our emotions and feelings where created by God
Haven’t a wide variety of feelings and emotions is what makes you a normal human being
Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they are just feelings but how we just to express them has the power to be helpful or harmful
Feelings act as signals telling us there is something going on in our emotions we need to pay attention to
Poorly handled feeling can lead to destructive tendencies like, criminal activities, suicide, escapism through alcohol and drugs etc
Feelings were meant to be expressed not buried within us
One of the biggest problems we have, is knowing how to express our feelings, some act by pushing them inside and pretending they are not there but this feelings wont just go away like that, others act by withdrawing themselves, hiding, getting depressed and becoming unresponsive, others may express and overload of feelings by acting out, they scream, hit roll on the floor etc.
Sharing positive feelings solidifies relationships. Love, appreciation, gratitude, delight—sharing these feelings builds affectionate bonds.
At the same time, stresses occur in everyone's life, leaving them with sad, scared or mad feelings. In addition, differences and hurt feelings will occur from time to time between just about any two people who often interact. Sharing feelings enables you to talk through the situation that had caused the difficulty. That way you can figure out how the problem occurred and what to do to fix it. Problem-solving together makes negative feelings lift. Otherwise the problem may linger or get worse, negative feelings may fester, and both you and your relationship suffer.
Emotions expressed can be healthy or harmful for a start I want to introduce us to the 3 don’ts when handling our emotions
Don’t hurt your self
Don’t hurt others
Don’t hurt properties
We leave in a generation now were the emotions and feelings of young people are very active, on a daily bases or very often this emotions are being hurt, sometimes through betrayal especially by the people we love and trust, through disappointment, bullying, lost of love ones, hardship, hatred … etc. As many as they are when we go through any of them our mood and perspective about life changes at times even we are tempted to give up on life, I have known of friends who refused to eat for days because they failed an exam, others cry for lengthy ours, others become very moody and sad, others very bitter toward people and life and in the worst case scenario which is becoming common, some start contemplating suicide.
Most of this reactions are natural depending on the individual nevertheless they do so much harm to oneself. I will give you a few a few things I understand as a child of God and let you put it into perspective
No one loves me like my God and if he has not given up on me then I will not give up on my self
I am part of the greatest love story that this world will ever know, that Christ will leave his throne come down to earth become a man, suffers and dies just so that I could be safe, there is no husband, boy friend, girl friend, friend, brother, sister, mom, dad, colleague etc who can love me like he does
When I am mad or sad or angry, it hurt and destroys me more than it does the person who has hurt me, anger is like a poison to the body and like a quote I love so much puts it “you cannot drink poison and expect someone else to die”
For as long as there is air in my lungs, there is hope in this world
I did not create myself, this life that I have belongs to my creator hence the decision whether to stay alive or not is not mind to make
The intentional refusal to let go of a situation that brings you pain or trusting it to God through faith and eventually harming your self is sinful
Hurting someone else as a reaction or retaliation to hat you are feeling, will not heal your hurt on the contrary, it might create or aggravate more pains.
The pressures of life weigh down on every one, at times the hurt we receive from people we love or people we come across is just a reaction of this excess pressure life is exerting on them, maturity will require that you do not retaliate quickly to every hurt you feel in your emotions this might bring the misbehaver back to reality.
As a Christian I remember the apostle Stephen in the book of Act 7:1-59 who was stoned to death and at the point of death looked up the heavens and prayed that God should not hold the actions of his killers against them. Our desire is to get people to change/repent from any wicked habit the exhibit and not to ensure that they are condemned.
The phenomenal were people destroy properties when hurt is becoming common in our generation and I like to compare people who exhibit such to those under the influence of drugs or alcohol, because in a few minute after your tantrum comes regret.
According to an article from Susan Heitler, PhD;
Sharing feelings effectively often begins with two simple words: “I feel….”. Fill in the blank then with a feeling-word, that is, a word such as confused, delighted, or exhausted. The mistake that people often make when they are trying to share a feeling is to say "I feel that ... " The word that indicates that what will follow is going to be a thought, not a feeling.
The bottom line is that how you express feelings makes a huge difference in how receptively your feelings will be heard. At the same time, the person with whom you are sharing your feelings has a major role in whether the discussion will be positive or not. Narcissistic people for instance may ignite in irritation when they hear expressions of a partner's vulnerable feelings no matter how that feeling has been presented. Others may take personally, as a criticism of them, the negative feelings that you are describing.
Are your emotions o feelings really hurting, then run to someone you trust, someone who is mature enough to understand your feelings, someone who will not be biased in advising you and share with him/her, you will soon realize you made the right decision.
These are simply the taught of my heart and as the spirit of God lead me to share, I will be glad to hear from you, please leave your comments and opinion on the comment section below
God bless you !
Here is what you need to know about emotions and feelings before we start;
Our emotions and feelings where created by God
Haven’t a wide variety of feelings and emotions is what makes you a normal human being
Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they are just feelings but how we just to express them has the power to be helpful or harmful
Feelings act as signals telling us there is something going on in our emotions we need to pay attention to
Poorly handled feeling can lead to destructive tendencies like, criminal activities, suicide, escapism through alcohol and drugs etc
Feelings were meant to be expressed not buried within us
One of the biggest problems we have, is knowing how to express our feelings, some act by pushing them inside and pretending they are not there but this feelings wont just go away like that, others act by withdrawing themselves, hiding, getting depressed and becoming unresponsive, others may express and overload of feelings by acting out, they scream, hit roll on the floor etc.
Sharing positive feelings solidifies relationships. Love, appreciation, gratitude, delight—sharing these feelings builds affectionate bonds.
At the same time, stresses occur in everyone's life, leaving them with sad, scared or mad feelings. In addition, differences and hurt feelings will occur from time to time between just about any two people who often interact. Sharing feelings enables you to talk through the situation that had caused the difficulty. That way you can figure out how the problem occurred and what to do to fix it. Problem-solving together makes negative feelings lift. Otherwise the problem may linger or get worse, negative feelings may fester, and both you and your relationship suffer.
Emotions expressed can be healthy or harmful for a start I want to introduce us to the 3 don’ts when handling our emotions
Don’t hurt your self
Don’t hurt others
Don’t hurt properties
We leave in a generation now were the emotions and feelings of young people are very active, on a daily bases or very often this emotions are being hurt, sometimes through betrayal especially by the people we love and trust, through disappointment, bullying, lost of love ones, hardship, hatred … etc. As many as they are when we go through any of them our mood and perspective about life changes at times even we are tempted to give up on life, I have known of friends who refused to eat for days because they failed an exam, others cry for lengthy ours, others become very moody and sad, others very bitter toward people and life and in the worst case scenario which is becoming common, some start contemplating suicide.
Most of this reactions are natural depending on the individual nevertheless they do so much harm to oneself. I will give you a few a few things I understand as a child of God and let you put it into perspective
No one loves me like my God and if he has not given up on me then I will not give up on my self
I am part of the greatest love story that this world will ever know, that Christ will leave his throne come down to earth become a man, suffers and dies just so that I could be safe, there is no husband, boy friend, girl friend, friend, brother, sister, mom, dad, colleague etc who can love me like he does
When I am mad or sad or angry, it hurt and destroys me more than it does the person who has hurt me, anger is like a poison to the body and like a quote I love so much puts it “you cannot drink poison and expect someone else to die”
For as long as there is air in my lungs, there is hope in this world
I did not create myself, this life that I have belongs to my creator hence the decision whether to stay alive or not is not mind to make
The intentional refusal to let go of a situation that brings you pain or trusting it to God through faith and eventually harming your self is sinful
Hurting someone else as a reaction or retaliation to hat you are feeling, will not heal your hurt on the contrary, it might create or aggravate more pains.
The pressures of life weigh down on every one, at times the hurt we receive from people we love or people we come across is just a reaction of this excess pressure life is exerting on them, maturity will require that you do not retaliate quickly to every hurt you feel in your emotions this might bring the misbehaver back to reality.
As a Christian I remember the apostle Stephen in the book of Act 7:1-59 who was stoned to death and at the point of death looked up the heavens and prayed that God should not hold the actions of his killers against them. Our desire is to get people to change/repent from any wicked habit the exhibit and not to ensure that they are condemned.
The phenomenal were people destroy properties when hurt is becoming common in our generation and I like to compare people who exhibit such to those under the influence of drugs or alcohol, because in a few minute after your tantrum comes regret.
According to an article from Susan Heitler, PhD;
Sharing feelings effectively often begins with two simple words: “I feel….”. Fill in the blank then with a feeling-word, that is, a word such as confused, delighted, or exhausted. The mistake that people often make when they are trying to share a feeling is to say "I feel that ... " The word that indicates that what will follow is going to be a thought, not a feeling.
The bottom line is that how you express feelings makes a huge difference in how receptively your feelings will be heard. At the same time, the person with whom you are sharing your feelings has a major role in whether the discussion will be positive or not. Narcissistic people for instance may ignite in irritation when they hear expressions of a partner's vulnerable feelings no matter how that feeling has been presented. Others may take personally, as a criticism of them, the negative feelings that you are describing.
Are your emotions o feelings really hurting, then run to someone you trust, someone who is mature enough to understand your feelings, someone who will not be biased in advising you and share with him/her, you will soon realize you made the right decision.
These are simply the taught of my heart and as the spirit of God lead me to share, I will be glad to hear from you, please leave your comments and opinion on the comment section below
God bless you !
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